Welcome to A BEAUTIFUL LIFE. My name is Kenny – Kehinde Nwani (nee Lokulo-Sodipe). I am first and foremost a child of God, married to a great guy called Andy Nwani, and we are blessed with 3 wonderful children aged 25, 17 and 13. Career wise; I am an Educationist and a Business Executive; the CEO of Meadow Hall Group and also a Social Entrepreneur (Founder – Meadow Hall Foundation).
You may have noticed how I described myself and all the positions I occupy – as God’s daughter, as a wife, as a mother, as a career woman and as a nation builder. If you look carefully, you will also see an order of priority.
This order was informed by the account of my all-time role model, one of the greatest women that ever lived, Deborah (her story is told in Judges 4 in the Bible). Her life spells out clearly our 5 purposes as women according to an order of priority.
Deborah was first referred to as a prophetess of God, which speaks of her relationship with her Maker. A prophetess (a true one that is) hears from God. I believe this is where it all starts, giving God first place in our hearts. This is what dictates what will happen in every other area of our lives and ultimately guarantees our success.
She was then described as the wife of Lapidoth, which represents our second priority as women. No matter how great she was, she willingly put herself under the leadership of HER HUSBAND. What a great example we have in her as modern women, especially in these days of feminism. Please, let us learn from those who have gone ahead of us.
“What if I’m not married?”, some might ask. Jesus is your husband. Indeed, Paul appealed to people to be like him, fulfilled by simply satisfying his Lord. But we thank God for Jesus who gave us the institution of marriage. So you don’t have a husband yet? It’s perfectly okay! No P! Continue serving your heavenly Lord until your ‘earthly lord’ comes along. He makes all things beautiful in his own time.
Deborah was called a ‘Mother-in-Israel’ despite the Bible not mentioning if she had children or not. I believe this is instructive. Being a mother goes beyond mothering your biological children. As Deborah was a mother to many others, a mother to the nation, so should we! So if you are in the ‘waiting room’, I declare that the God who answered me and gave me a new song after eight years of secondary infertility, blessing me with 2 more children will answer you in Jesus’ name, Amen. Nevertheless, you are already a mother – mother to the numerous ‘spiritual’ children out there (younger ones who look up to you in church, at work, and in your community).
Deborah was called a Judge. This was her career, which earned her a lot of respect nationwide. We shall be impactful and be solution providers in our own field, and the Lord’s name will be glorified in our lives, in Jesus’ name, Amen.
I believe each of us (like Joseph) has a field where people will bow before us as Joseph’s siblings and parents bowed in recognition of God’s anointing upon us in that area of our calling.
If you are the CEO of your home, please realize that you are still fulfilling purpose. A lady called Jael in the same scripture in Judges 4 was a home maker, who did great and mighty things for her country and fulfilled purpose even as a homemaker.
Lastly, Deborah went to war on behalf of her nation. She was a Nation builder. She went beyond her home and career and made an impact on her nation and generation. My favourite saying is, “You can build a nest (your home) and still fly (spread your wings and touch the world)”. Charity begins at home but doesn’t end there. Cater to the needs of your family first by all means, and spread your tentacles and affect other lives beyond your family.
Great lessons from an awesome woman, you’ll agree with me. Like I said, she is my role model as she lived a life of purpose. I am extremely purpose driven and the older I get, the more important it becomes to me to fulfill purpose. Sisters, there is no time to waste on things that don’t matter but rather let us focus on fulfilling purpose. A life without purpose is a vain, shallow and empty one and no matter what we try to fill it with, we will remain unfulfilled and unhappy. On the other hand, a life of purpose is so exciting! Never a boring moment!
My Final Thoughts:
Deborah had a ministry; she was a prophetess; she SERVED God – not for money, fame, recognition or ambition. She SERVED Him in her capacity as a PROPHETESS. What is your ministry? What is/are your area(s) of personal service to God? This is different from your relationship with God. YOU ARE SAVED TO SERVE. He has called me to be a MENTOR to ladies (and Children), a Ministry I take very seriously.
Titus 2: 3 – 5 is a ministry call for me, as I see the need for this ministry all around me – there is a need for us to encourage ourselves as women first of all, to a deeper walk with God to get to the stage where we are led by Him and His Spirit in all things and all ways, where His will becomes our will. A place where the secular and spiritual merge and there is no significant difference.
Let’s come together, to build up ourselves, our daughters, sisters and sisters-in-law, nannies and indeed, all women. Please join me, my sisters, let us assist each other to enjoy the fullness of joy the Bible promises. If this kind of Joy was unattainable, the Lord would not say so – for God is not man, that He should lie. He said ask that your Joy may be full – John 16:24.
I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!